What are LiLY walks?

LiLY (LiVES LOST YOUNG) walks are easy-paced, group walking sessions for anyone who has lost a child or young person. They offer some gentle exercise and the chance to talk with others who share your experience.

The walks are safe, supportive and suitable for all. And FREE. They take place from Beverley Rugby Union Football Club every second Wednesday of the month. Come along whenever you want or need to – every month or just occasionally.

Read on to find out more: what happens at a typical session, how you might benefit, and when and where to join the walks.

Who are LiLY walks for?

LiLY walks are for anyone (aged 16+) who has been affected by the death of a child or young person. Parents, siblings, other family members and friends are all welcome. It does not matter how long ago you experienced your bereavement – we very much understand that the pain of grief is ongoing.

What happens at a LiLY walk session?

A lovely team of trained walk leaders hosts the walks each week. They will welcome you and make sure you feel comfortable in the group.

The 2-3 mile walks are tailored to your ability, so there is no need to worry about levels of fitness. The leaders make sure that the group stays together and that no one is left behind or on their own. We use specific systems of support to enable all abilities to enjoy an appropriate workout together without fear of being too slow. The leaders will ensure you are appropriately warmed up for the walk and then take you through a gentle cool down afterwards.

The focus is on ‘walk and talk’, rather than a workout, as we understand how valuable it can be to talk with others who may share similar experiences. With that in mind, every session ends with a cuppa and a chat at the rugby club.

The leaders are not trained counsellors but facilitate the walks so that participants can be active and talk to each other and the leaders as much or as little as they like. They can provide information about other means of grief support through other organisations.

What will I get out of it?

We know that being active can support mental health, and can be a particular help at times of bereavement. Walking in the fresh air provides many physical health benefits and it can lift the spirits. Many bereaved people also find support in being with others in a similar position – knowing that you are not the only one experiencing particular thoughts and feelings can be an incredible help. The aim of the LiLY walks is to provide safe and nurturing sessions for participants to experience the benefits of being active alongside other people in a similar position. We hope that, over time, friendships will be formed and that it will be a positive, healing experience for both body and mind.

How have the sessions helped other people?

Our bereavement programmes have been supporting people for some time now. The feedback confirms that the sessions are helping participants at a very difficult time. One of our LiLY walk participants explained:
“It’s really special to be able to walk and talk with other bereaved parents and share our experiences. The LiLY walks have given me a reason to leave the house and socialise in an environment where I feel safe and supported. This has been an invaluable part of my healing process.”

When and where are the LiLY walks?

Our LiLY walks take place every second Wednesday of the month at 6.45pm from Beverley Rugby Union Football Club at Beaver Park, Norwood, Beverley, HU17 9HT.

How much does it cost?

LiLY walks are free to participants.

How can I take part?

Just turn up! Come along whenever you feel a walk with company might help – no need to come every month (although you would be very welcome!).

If you have questions about the programme or are anxious about attending, please email Heather (heather@fitmums.org.uk) who will be happy to help.